I know he was not the first person to share that philosophy. We've all heard warnings from family telling us to be careful who we are associating with. We've heard "Birds of a Feather Flock Together". The first impression when hearing these statements may be that we can be judged by others according to the people we spend time with. Sure. It makes sense that people of like mind would chose to "flock together".
The other and very important aspect of this thought process is about the way others influence us. We may be encouraged to participate in choices that we would not normally go for if we aren't careful.
But that's not all. The influence of others extends much deeper than that.
A wise and happy person makes difficult decisions about who they chose to associate. I want to spend my time with people who bring out my best. AND perhaps more essential, with people who support my emotional well being by making me feel good about me.
That comes from support and positive energy!
We have all had friends and family who tear us down. Ugh.
My ex used to show up hours, many hours late. When he'd finally come home to find me sitting on the couch feeling sorry for myself he would say "did you have anything better to do?" I'd say "no". He'd say "no harm done". That did not make me feel like a valuable part of the relationship.
There's countless examples. How about that sister-in-law that complains about every single aspect of life in his facebook post? Or the politically crazed? Or the dogmatic religious friend whose daily posts are bitter and angry. The know-it-all who creates division? Two words people: hide them.
Make distance from the people who bring you down. Negative energy is toxic and life is too short.
Have you ever had to end a relationship or distance yourself from someone close? You might struggle with the decision. But when you have that space left for positive energy, YOU will be better for it.
How great does it feel to be in an uplifting environment?
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